Some things to think about:

• 1st and most important. Do YOU want to be pregnant?
• Do you think he will be supportive and happy, or scared and unsupportive?
• Do you think he will need time to get used to the idea?
• Is there a friend he can talk to about it? Someone who is a Dad would be a good idea.
• Put yourself in his shoes. Will it be a total shock to him that you are pregnant?
• Have you ever discussed having children together?
• Your age, the strength of your relationship and your personal circumstances are important.

When to tell him you are pregnant

• Pregnancy lasts 9 months, but the sooner you find out, the sooner you should tell him. But don’t rush in – think about what you are going to say 1st. This is an important moment for him as well as you.

How to tell him you are pregnant

• Face to face is a good idea. He can see your reaction, and more importantly – you can see his!
• Don’t tell him when other people are around. This is a private moment between the 2 of you.
• You could tell him you think you might be pregnant, and do the test together.

Pregnancy test

Doing a pregnancy test too early can give you a negative result when you are actually pregnant. They all seem to work pretty much the same, you wee on the end of the stick, then wait for a couple of minutes. Those minutes can last a lifetime though!

I really didn’t believe the test as the line was very feint, so I took several more. They all said the same. My Doctor said it didn’t matter how feint the line was, if there is a line, no matter how feint – you are pregnant.

Of course,  pregnancy tests are not 100% accurate, a urine test sent off to the hospital by your GP will tell you for sure.

Flying when pregnant

• The safest time to fly is after 12 and before 25 weeks. (The 2nd second trimester)
• After 25 weeks (third trimester) there is a risk of an increase in blood pressure as well as the chance of giving birth prematurely. Every pregnancy is different so please discuss any concern you have with your doctor.

Tips for while you are in the air

• Wear DVT socks. This is good advice for everyone not just pregnant women. Wearing DVT socks can help prevent blood clots which can be life threatening if they reach your lungs.
• Keep well-hydrated, pregnant women are very susceptible to dehydration. Make sure you have a bottle of water with you.
• On long hauls get up and walk around at least every hour to help your circulation.
• Wear sandals or shoes with adjustable straps in case your feet swell.
• Wear loose, comfortable clothing.
• Rest as much as possible.
• Avoid tea and coffee, which may increase the risk of DVT.

Remember – plane seats are narrow so you may be uncomfortable.

Where should I go on holiday?

If you choose to go abroad:

• Avoid destinations located over 2000 metres of altitude, especially during the three first months; your baby could lack oxygen.
• Avoid destinations where malaria or yellow fever is common
• Avoid countries with inadequate health services.

On your holiday

• Take a list of names and numbers of people who should be contacted in case of emergency.
• Keep a list handy of the local hospitals (you can get this from the local embassy, tourist board, or your hotel).
• Keep out of the sun at the hottest times of the day between 12pm and 3pm. Your skin is more sensitive during pregnancy, so wear a higher factor of sunscreen than you usually need.
• Avoid diving and water sports while pregnant.
• Take a copy of your notes and take them with you – they contain valuable information that will be needed by doctors, in case you go into premature labour.
• Know your blood group in case of an emergency.
• Check with your airline and insurance company that they will allow you to travel when pregnant. Some insurers will not cover pregnant women or will impose conditions which you need to be aware of. Different airlines have different rules, but after 24 weeks, the airline may request a letter from your GP stating your expected delivery date.

Immunizations and diseases

• Make sure your immunizations are up to date, some immunisations are not safe to receive if you are pregnant.
• Infectious diseases are serious not only for you but also for your unborn baby.
• Malaria is particularly serious, it is important to avoid infected areas. These include India, Africa and parts of South America, among others.
• Travel in hygienic conditions.
• Be very careful with all of your food and water.
• Never take  any unknown medication.

Local health services

• Choose a country where local health services are good.
• Avoid destinations where malaria is common.
• Avoid mosquito repellents containing DEET. (Look for a natural alternative such as citronella oil or use nets to protect yourself from mosquitoes.)

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